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There comes a point when you’re not at school anymore, you’re working full time and you’re basically a grown-up but you still find yourself living at home. This can cause a bit of a conflict, you might not be quite ready to fly the nest yet but you don’t want to live with the same rules you had when you were 12. There may be moments when you wish your parents would back off but in the end you’ll be grateful to still live at home.


You may think you have what it takes to live away from home, not necessarily on your own but definitely with other people. You can tie your shoelaces, make your bed by yourself and earn enough money to pay rent and bills. However there are hundreds of little things that your parents do for you everyday, without you even realising. You might do your washing every now and again but little parcels of clean clothes will still appear every other day at your bedroom door. Do you know how annoying it is to have to do washing two or three times a week, probably not. And what about cooking? You might make yourself dinner in the week but you would really miss sitting down to a family roast on a Sunday.


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Despite all of this, loads of teenagers who work can’t wait to leave home. They might feel that they are treated like a baby or that they have no independence but it's all about striking the balance and giving as well as taking. It’s unfair for your parents to charge you rent, ask you to buy your own food, do your own chores and then still expect you to live by strict rules. However, it is equally unfair for you to expect to be treated like a child at home, to want all your washing done for and your food cooked every night, but at the same time to expect to be able to do whatever you want.


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The best way to combat any problems is to talk to your parents, set out the boundaries together now that you have got older and now you have more responsibilities. For example, if you are over 18 they can’t ban you from going out or give you a ridiculously early curfew, but they are well within their rights to tell you you can't scream the house down at three in the morning. Equally, if you are earning, your parents can’t dictate what you do and do not spend your money on. They can, however, ask for you to start paying for a few things, and they retain the right to say no if you ask for handouts when you have spent all of your wages.


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Enjoying living at home once you have “grown up” it's all about recognising the benefits. There is always food in the fridge, you probably don’t pay rent, you definitely don’t pay bills or council tax, free Wifi and you can take advantage of the family Netflix account whenever you want. It’s also about understanding where your parents are coming from, nine times out of ten they are not saying things for the sake of it or to wind you up, they are asking where you are or where you are going because they are worried and want you to be safe. For them it is probably just scary that their child is growing up so fast!


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Once you move in with friends who refuse to buy loo roll and don’t know how to use a washing machine, you’ll really appreciate how good living at home is and you’ll be desperate to move back!


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